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Friday, September 15, 2006

Adventures in Babyshitting

Now that I officially have a toddler (she’s just a wee 16 months, but if she toddles, she’s a toddler, right?), I realize that bumblebee’s father and I must now gently guide her through a whole new leg of developmental milestones.

So far, I think we’ve done ok:

We’ve seen her through to




Pondering the important things in life

And turning us into complete suckers with her cuteness

So, I think that we are all prepared for whatever comes next – talking, for example. Bumblebee’s vocabulary increases daily, and we have always talked to her like a normal person, so I know she’ll thrive there (today, she told us what a bunny does – Hop! Hop! Hop!). One day she may even sleep through the night, or in her crib…

Sorry, had to take a moment there. I was laughing so hard I had to pee.

Which brings me to the developmental milestone I most dread having to face:

Toilet training.

Seriously. This one I don't look forward to. Call me crazy, but I have never minded dealing with diapers, diaper changes, baby shit or any of it. I even did cloth diapers for the first 8 months, and only a body that is truly not fazed by shitty bums would deal with that action.

But toilet training scares me. I feel like I am already late out of the gate. We have several friends who have children the same age, and they have had a potty around for months. Not because they intend their child to use it yet, but so that said child will recognize it, be curious about it and want to use it. One friend puts her 15 month son on the potty frequently, and has been rewarded with a little pish in the dish. My nanny’s 18-month old daughter has already pooped in the potty – after informing her that she had to go!

I can’t imagine being so toilet savvy yet. Even tho she toddles, my babe is still, well, a babe. I certainly don’t want to rush her, and even tho she clearly hates having her diaper changed, I can’t picture her going the grown up way for a while. And more importantly, I’m not ready. And I hate pottys. They remind me of old, infirm people, and I can’t imagine having to clean the thing out 10 times a day. We never had one when I was little; just a seat that went on the seat so that little bottoms couldn’t slip through. And my mother insists that we were all toilet trained in one week, at age 2 years, 2 months. Not a day before. Except my brother. He was slightly more resistant, and my mother made jokes that she would be chasing him down the aisle at his wedding yelling, ‘please, please, let’s put on big boy pants!’ My sister trained her daughter by letting her run around naked in the garden all summer. But they lived on an island in BC, with slightly fewer neighbours, and slightly more land than our city pad enjoys.

So that’s it then, I suppose. Off to the country with us. Pack lightly; we won’t be needing any pants.

This, I realize, is my mothering achilles’ heel. I co-sleep, breastfeed, made organic babyfood, sing to, read to, talk to, and am head-over-heels bonkers for my child. But I am not looking forward to toilet training. I am scared of it. Don’t even know why. The notion of having to spend a week cooped up in the house to ensure that we always have a dumping ground at the ready? The prospect that, like with breastfeeding and sleeping, bumblebee will be loathe to change the program? The idea that once bumblebee is through with diapers that she is also truly done with being a baby?

That’s the part that freaks the crap out of me.

you want me to what? where?

special thanks to metro mama for lending us cakes' sweater for this early morning photoshoot. bee's father pays so much attention to his daughters' wardrobe that he had no idea that it wasn't hers. don't worry, I've washed it!


  • At 6:49 PM, Blogger Ali said…

    wow. she is soooo beautiful.

    that last shot is amazing.

  • At 7:48 PM, Blogger metro mama said…

    Great pics. She looks great in the sweater. Hopefully this is the start of many years of the girls lending eachother their clothing.

    I don't want to even think about the potty. Actually, I hadn't until you brought it up last week. Shit.

  • At 10:17 PM, Blogger Lisa b said…

    AWWWW So cute!
    Don't sweat the potty training. Get the seat to go on the big potty and if your nanny is such a pro let her try. My daycare wanted to start so I went along with it not expecting much and I have to say I am pretty surprised at how well it is going. My guess would be that she would do it at about the same time you did though.
    Maybe it is your achilles heel but I suspect that if you can laugh about sleep potty training is not going to be as hard as you think.

  • At 2:43 AM, Blogger Lady M said…

    What cuteness!

    My son is 18 months old, and we haven't started potty training him yet. Our nanny says that when she raised her (now adult) daughter), she was highly motivated to potty train, because they were still using cloth diapers but had no washer/dryer at the time!

  • At 3:02 PM, Blogger crazymumma said…

    I waited until my girls were two, and it took all of a couple of weeks. Besides potty training with snowsuits sucks the big one. I suggest waiting for warmer weather, then buy her some pretty undies (let her choose), no inbetween pull up/down diaper stuff, too confusing. And she will be out of diapers in no time.

    Good luck

    ps. My big girl thinks bumblebee is very cute...

    another ps, my word verification is 'yeaah'!

  • At 9:49 PM, Blogger Her Bad Mother said…

    Those photos make me want to lick my screen. Really.

    (And can I add here? Your comment at Julie's last post? LOVED IT. Any woman who can work a reference to the philosophy of Lloyd Dobler into a comment on a post about blog politics is my friend for life.

    Why have we not met in real life yet? Why, why?!!)

  • At 12:17 AM, Blogger nomotherearth said…

    My son is 20mths, and I have no motivation to potty train I gotta say that diapers are a LOT easier. I was sort of waiting for the magical moment when he told me that he was interested in the potty. Seeing as most complicated words we have are "money", "monkey" and "hamburger"...I may be waiting for a while...

  • At 1:07 AM, Blogger Christina said…

    She is absolutely adorable!

    As for the potty, we're dreading it as well. Cordy turns 2 this week, and she still has no interest in the thing. We bought her a potty, but she thinks it's just a chair for watching TV. Sigh.

    I'm also not pushing it yet, because I dread having to stop in bathrooms in every store or anyplace we go for her to go potty every 10 minutes.

  • At 7:07 PM, Blogger lisalou said…

    You should read my friend reesh's post about "poop catching" with her 7 month about intense! (

    Her and her sister practice elimination communication with their babies. When the time comes, I don't think it will be my choice but it is interesting.

  • At 3:21 AM, Anonymous something blue said…

    Bumblebee is beautiful! I love these photos.

    The potty is gross. I loved switching our daughter to the toilet so that she could go "big girl style." The attached seat so that she felt safe was the way to go.

    I really think there is no point in pushing. They seem to know when it is right for them and then you can encourage. (Or as in my case cheer, dance and feel completely insane in doing so!)

  • At 3:05 PM, Blogger cinnamon gurl said…

    Bumblebee is SO adorable!

    Thanks for the comments on my blog. I have to admit, I feel a bit like a popular girl just said hi to me in the hall.

  • At 11:29 AM, Blogger bubandpie said…

    I was going to demand that you hand over the sweater immediately (the cuteness cannot be resisted), but since it's borrowed from Julie, I guess I'll go bully her instead.

    I, too, am dreading the potty training thing, but in my case it's in relation to my almost-three-year-old (I think that's got everybody else beat). We have the potty in our living room, but so far the only person interested in it is the Pie. I think the new plan is to potty-train her first and then let Bub learn by example.

  • At 11:31 AM, Blogger bubandpie said…

    P.S. I can't manage to subscribe to you in Bloglines - I've tried twice but it never shows the new posts. So I just have to REMEMBER to click over here every once in awhile, and considering the state of my memory, it's a testament to my persistence and love of your blog that there's only a two-post backlog when I do make it over here!

  • At 10:03 PM, Blogger scarbie doll said…

    Yo, ditto on the potty training. Though my psycho mother has been trying since he was under a year old. I had to make her stop. There are pictures of him playing the bongos while she left him on the potty for 30 minutes! Effed up.

    Crazy Mumma has a good point with the snowsuit thing -- never even considered that. Let's make a potty pact -- we'll start next spring!

  • At 10:19 PM, Blogger penelopeto said…

    You got it, Scarb.

  • At 10:37 PM, Blogger Nancy said…

    Two things, first: COULD.SHE.BE.ANY CUTER???" Holy crap that is a cute baby, almost as cute as The Alien.

    Second: what is this "sleeping through the night" of which you speak?


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